Love means to accept someone as they are.

People grow when they are loved well. If you want to help others heal, love them without an agenda.

We can’t love someone under the guise of hoping they will change someday and become the person we really want them to be.

To love means to accept someone as they are, in their entirety, in this moment. Not just accept, but actually revel in who they are—including those parts that make us squirm because of what they might trigger within our own selves.

Yet so many of us have gotten into relationships with the hope and expectation that eventually the person we are with will stop—or begin—doing certain things.

The reality is: this isn’t love.

Instead, it’s us wanting another person to become who we think they should be.

It’s like us taking scissors and thread, and cutting and sewing their best and worst qualities, until they have become someone who we think is acceptable—someone we want to love and have in our lives.

The most daring thing any of us can do is love someone for exactly as they are.

To approach relationships with the expectation of change, we automatically lose sight of the importance of where our lover is on their journey—and instead of letting them grow in whatever way they are meant to, we set up roadblocks and detours, because we want them to grow in only the ways we think they should.

Instead, let’s go into this conscious love thing all radical and clear-eyed—let’s make the choice to love someone without the expectation of change, but rather with an expectaion of growth, meaning that we know someday they may grow in a different direction from us.

गुड मॉर्निंग मेख्।

तुम्हे मिस कर रहा हूँ जान।

ई लव यू।

नील मेख्।

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