Are people capable of missing anything or anyone? Or are we only missing our interpretation and memory of that thing or person?
It sounds like the same thing, but it’s really not.
In essence, we aren’t actually capable of missing or loving anyone for the exact person he or she is.
People judge — we all do. It’s the way we were built, and it will never, ever change. By judging, we create a set of beliefs that we have about an individual. As the relationship grows, we tweak.
Sometimes, however, our interpretations of that person are way off the mark — which is one reason people fall out of love.
They fall out of love with the person they thought they knew because they’ve grown to understand the person who actually exists — and it’s not the same person.
Sometimes you don’t miss the person but instead miss the idea of him or her.
This person treated you like sh*t, but you can only remember the good times.
You miss having someone in your life — it’s completely understandable. People don’t like to be alone.
Yes, some of us manage much better than others, but it’s just about always due to necessity.
No one chooses to be entirely alone unless he or she has some psychological issues.
Sure, we all like to be alone from time to time, but only from time to time. Inevitably, we’ll get lonely and want to have someone in our lives to share our lives with. It’s completely natural and nothing at all to be ashamed of.
You don’t miss the person you were with, you miss the person you were when you were with him or her.
When we reach back into our past and remember past lovers, the experiences we had together, the feelings we felt, the memories we created… we aren’t so much thinking about the person we were with but rather the person we were when we were with him or her.
People are very egocentric. It’s our nature. It shouldn’t be shunned but should be embraced, better understood and a bit better controlled.
People are capable of loving the same individual forever. We are capable of missing him or her and capable of understanding what we managed to lose or give up on. Yet, this is rarely the case.
More often than not, we are exhausting ourselves emotionally on individuals who don’t deserve our attention. Learn to differentiate, and your life will lead you in a much brighter direction.
I have always loved you Mekh.